Tuesday, February 15, 2011

The Days of Wine and Roses

      What is it? Where is it?
          Love. An intense feeling of deep affection.
                 Love. Love me, love my dog: If you love someone, you must accept everything about them, even their faults or weaknesses. Love is unconditional. Love is wonderful. Full of light. Feelings of butterflies tickling you all over. That warm fuzzy feeling when he brushes the hair from your face. Ahhh that intense electricity pulsing through your every pore. Rose petals and candle lit dinners. Personally, I don't care for roses. I prefer Lilies. But this is not about me. This is about LOVE! Okay, maybe it is a little about me. To be honest, when I was younger, I thought about meeting the one. It would be one of those days where we "accidentally" met. You know the story, I'm sure you've seen movies just like this scenario; My cat gets out somehow and climbs a tree. We will name this cat... Mr. Squiggles, just because he is so squiggly and cute. SO I am outside, looking for my cat, apparently not paying attention to where I am walking and in the processes I bump into this handsome stranger. Then I go about explaining how I'm sorry and was just looking for my cat..... And then it happens, our eyes meet......  BOOM!!!!! Lightening has stuck and cupids little arrow shoots me right in the buttocks. Love at first sight. Mmmm.. How joyful and serene. Then of course a "Meeeeooooow" comes out of no where. Oh no!!! And my poor kitty kat is stuck up in the tree, what shall I do?? Of course this handsome stranger, taking off his shirt so he doesn't dirty it and giving me some eye candy to enjoy while saving my cat comes to the rescue and we live happily ever after. The end.

         Ummm... *cough* Excuse me...But I don't think that's quite feasible. No. That would never happen. But I thought when I was younger, that one freaking day, my life would open up to become a fairy tale. It's not all wine and roses. Today, people are self absorbed, pretentious, and lacking in communication skills. BUT... there are some great people out there. If you love yourself then chances are you will find (or they will find you and save your cat), that amazing love that lingers in the air.

But back to the topic of love. What is love to you?

I have gone around asking this question to random people that I know to see what their thoughts of the matter were. They probably thought I was crazy. But whatever. Here are some of their replies:

"It always hurts, because love is an emotional thing. You can't rationalize it." ~Dina, 24.    
"Love is when you feel good about yourself when you are with that person." ~Jesse, 55.
"One of the reasons for living." ~ Krista, 28.
"Love is the compass necklace my boyfriend got me for Valentine's Day." ~Kaitlin, my sister, 21.
"Simple answer, Selflessness." ~Ray, 30.
"A strong positive emotion of regards and affection." ~Kudus, 23.
"You." ~ Garth, my best friend, 36.

Hmmmm... Sounds like a lot of people have some interesting ideas of what love is. Or isn't. Maybe it's like Mazzy Stars Fade Into You ? There is no wrong answer. There are so many different types of love. Love you have for your friends, family, partner, co workers, pets, and the love you have for yourself.

Someone ask me, if two people fell out of love, did I believe they could regain it again? My answer: I think that people may be able to light that fire again. Depending on the severity of the fall out. So in all honesty, I would have to hear both sides of the story before giving my advice and opinions.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 13:5-7 

Paramahansa Yogananda: "To describe love is very difficult, for the same reason that words cannot fully describe the flavor of an orange. You have to taste the fruit to know its flavor. So with love."  ♥

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Social Butterfly, Indeed.

Tighten Up_ The Black Keys is the song for this post. Why, you ask? Maybe if you listen to the lyrics after you read this you will understand. Enjoy.

These last couple days have been pretty amazing. I was able to hang out with people I hadn't seen in a long time and rekindle a friendship that was lost long ago. I wouldn't consider myself a flirt. More like someone who is just very charming by nature. And someone who has many friends with a majority that happen to be men. I feel that in life I must live it to the fullest, not take anything personal and never regret my actions. I always think things through. And although, some of the things I do may be frowned upon in society, at least I can say I didn't live a boring life where I looked back and wondered "what if". Or thought, "Would my life be different if I had just said yes and been more optimistic?" No, I will never look back and say that. At 25, (almost), I feel I have lived quite a life that I could eventually write a book about. Needless to say, you may not be in agreement with some of MY decisions, but at least you have something entertaining to read. Where do I start? Hmmm...Well, it all started when my mother and father got divorced. I was 3 months old and do not recall this event. But I am pretty sure after my father left and my mother started dating other men (many men), was when I started to become a "flirt". My mother has always had this certain charm about her that can be irresistible.  Beautiful, young and raising two little girls by herself (who happen to be 11 months apart) is definitely not easy. When it comes to men in there 20's and 30's, they don't want a 20 something year old woman who has two kids. Especially, two little girls who just want their parents to be together. Now you can kind of get why she jumped from man to man. Being a single parent can be complicated.  Many years later, the two little girls grew up and as adults became very different. One who was very busy with her life and not wanting much to do with men. And the other (me), has many friends and loves to be social. I consider myself to be a free spirit. Now can you see where this "flirtiness"  gets misunderstood. As I get older I feel as if I can be as blunt as I want and not give a shit what others think of me. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect that. I do not have control over any ones life or what they do, so I can not judge. I hope that you can keep that in mind while you read this. Being judgmental is not attractive. Nor is it healthy. Let me live my life, it is mine. Remember? So the point of this is that regardless of what you do in life, or where you came from.... as long as you are not hurting anyone or yourself, live your life the way you want. You are the author of your book. Ask yourself "What is the next chapter in my life? What do I want to do next?" The possibilities are endless. It's a big world out there, with many things to do. Go explore a little. And be yourself.

"Smile... it's the second best thing to do with your lips." - Anonymous

The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page....

GOOD MORNING TRAVELERS YOUNG AND OLD!!!!! Today, I am going to let you in on a couple tips on how to be a great travel companion. We can all admit that at times, it can be hectic and overbearing. Or if you are optimistic, it becomes an adventure. To start with, you need to know a few things that are very important.

  1. Where are you going?
  2. When are you going, for how long and from what times?
  3. Where are you staying, hence, where is your adventure taking you on your trip?
Once you figure out these key questions you need to book your ticket and print it out. If you don't have a printer handy you can always get your ticket from where ever you are traveling out of.

Now comes the packing. Once you figure out where it is you are going and for how long, you need to pack the right stuff. Think about the weather. What activities you are going to be participating in and places you'll be dining out at. It's not brain science to figure these things out. If you are a fashionable or even a simple person, you can figure out what you want to bring. You will need a few items that I believe are IMPORTANT

  1. Brush brush brush. Need to keep your pearly whites clean. Do not forget your toothbrush, toothpaste, and whitening strips.
  2. Keeping your skin freshly renewed and clear is a must. Facial Cleanser, Toner and Moisturizer. I use anything by Neutrogena. 
  3. Traveling can dry out your skin, try Murad Pomegranate Exfoliating  Mask. They are amazing and constantly keep me looking beautiful.
  4. *sniffle sniffle* Always bring Kleenex and Claritin just in case those allergies start acting up.
  5. Mace. I am a single women and sometimes my ninja moves can't save me if I get myself in a scuffle. Pass the pepper, please!
  6. TEA TIME. Yes, bring herbal tea with you for any occasion. I like Yogi and have been told that Yorkshire is quite pleasant.
  7. Evian Facial Spray. It moisturizes, refreshes and tones. Amaaaaazing!! Comes in travel sizes so you can throw it in your purse. 
Pack light, but don't forget the essentials.
Getting to where you are going is important. I recommend being there around these times for successful departure:

  • Going to the airport: 1-2 hours early
  • Catching a train: 20-45 minutes early
  • Catching a bus: 30 minutes early.

Last but not least, always make sure you have a smile on your face. YOU ARE GOING SOMEWHERE!!! How exciting! Well, that is pretty much it. I will writing more post about certain trips I take this year. Things to look forward to:

  • Valentine's Day
  • My 25th Birthday
  • Hawaii
  • Snowboarding
  • Cooking
  • What I am learning in my Spanish classes
  • Finding an Inner Balance
  • Beauty 101 and how to stay in shape at 25
  • Finding the Perfect Guy
  • Letting go of bad habits and how to turn them into positive habits
 “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain